by Amy Dorsch Heavilin of Vivacious Victorian
One of my goals in life has been to take down the (as I call it) the HGTV myth : that restoring a house, or taking on a renovation, is an automatic death blow to any relationship. Of course, TV shows are meant for drama, and I’m sure a lot of people DO get into spats during the stress of a renovation. But everyone is different! And when people find out that we’re restoring a 4,700 square foot Victorian by ourselves, the first question is usually, “How haven’t you killed each other?” People are so fascinated that we can be involved in such a long-term project and still adore each other after 14 years of marriage – and multiple renovations. But it’s TRUE. In fact, I’ll argue that the renovation of our house has made us a stronger couple, and a stronger partnership.
I’m not naïve enough to think that our experience is the rule. I know it’s not. But I wish that people wouldn’t exclude a fixer upper from their future, just because they think it’ll cause issues. If you like working with your hands, if you like CREATING, if you like puzzles and solving problems, if you like making a space to works for you – then jump on board. It’s the best.
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